Mostly merry, all sober Christmas Day!

25 Dec

10:59 pm

What? Yes. Still sober. Sugared out, but still sober. I think I gained about five pounds in two days, but I’m still sober. 75 days and counting. Go, me!

And, the only sad things about today and yesterday were the somewhat minor but honestly, incessant, pangs to imbibe; and the memories of how horrible things were last Christmas due to my drinking. The memories don’t fade, which is extremely helpful to me: as they say in AA, remembering–feeling it, even–how bad it was keeps the incentive to stay sober evergreen.

I had a great few days. Lots of cooking, eating, talking, hanging, petting of dogs, hitting of beaches (well, I ran and hit the beach yesterday before our evening dinner party), etc. I mean, I felt, for the most part, GREAT not drinking. However, the longer I stay sober–and especially through days like today, where I actually felt a little left out, like I was the narc, the mother, the den leader, the dance’s chaperone–the more I see just how bad it was back then. The more I see just how bad *I* was. I was in serious denial for a long time! It’s only staying sober through it all, like holidays and times when it would be SO VERY NICE to have a glass of red wine, that I am allowed the view, y’know? Afforded the opportunity to see the subtle (in my mind) difference between “not that bad” and well, reality.

I mean, last Christmas? I spent it alone in [cold west coast city]. Alone in my studio, hung over from a ridiculous night out–also alone–which I barely have any recollection of except that I went to a Couchsurfing event almost blacked out; and eventually (after maybe going to a club, I don’t remember) brought home some dude who was thankfully NOT at my place when I woke up, completely clothed (including boots on) with a near-full bottle of Southern Comfort on my kitchen counter. (Was my blackout state not enough to clue him in that I really didn’t need anymore to drink? Maybe it was I who thought it was a good idea to buy it en route home that night because OF COURSE, it would be! I don’t even LIKE Southern Comfort! Ugh.) I spent most of Christmas Day in bed, and then forced myself to walk around, alone, in the cold, horrible [cold west coast city] fog, painfully pulling myself down hills and hoping to God(dess) that I didn’t have a panic attack in the middle of Chinatown.

This year? Worlds away. Entire galaxies. And, it makes me realize just how hurting I was.

Anyhoo, not to wallow, I just wanted to check in and say I MADE IT THROUGH another holiday of dinners and brunches SANS the grape! And, even though there were pangs, I am happy, calm, and proud to have just let them go. And, as always, they came and went and I’m still here, with my memory, pride, and self/spirit/soul intact! (I also probably saved myself thousands of calories; really, I am SO fucking full, I cannot imagine also having drunk red wine!)

I look forward to what the next 15 days, New Year’s Eve, and POST-90 looks like sober… 🙂 Merry Christmas, all!

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6 Responses to “Mostly merry, all sober Christmas Day!”

  1. Belle (Tired2012) December 26, 2012 at 8:39 am #

    i check your blog every morning to see how you’re doing, to get some wisdom, and to (sometimes silently) celebrate in your success. today i’ll do it out loud. hooray hooray hooray for you. you rock. a lot. i also thought a bit about drinking through the holidays, but not really craving, just thinking… and now all is well again. they’re just thoughts, and we’re (you and me!) too busy to fuck with that kind of nonsense. there’s so much goodness and calm going on here. can’t fuck with that! (and everyone who isn’t ready to quit yet is in denial, i think it’s a perfectly adequate coping strategy if you’re not ready to change). and you are. and have. and now you have perspective. you can see back AND forward. rock on (did i say that already?)

    • Drunky Drunk Girl December 28, 2012 at 1:27 am #

      Oh, Belle, thank you for this. I really LOVE reading your blog (where have you been lately?) and love seeing your comments here. (Yeah, I’m actually having larger pangs now than during Xmas!) But, perfectly stated: too much goodness and calm going on here to fuck with it! And, cravings/pangs come and go, but that doesn’t mean that I have to drink, get hung over, and then start over again where I left off the previous day, does it? NO! 🙂 Goodness and calm and ROCKING ON. xxx

  2. Becky December 26, 2012 at 10:13 am #

    Proud of you. What an awesome post and a great way to spend Christmas, sober & happy. Looking back to the past memories are hard and your right, you need the reminders of how far you have come and how great sobriety feels. I am so looking forward to your 90 day post! Keep rocking girl!

    Merry Christmas!

    B.

    • Drunky Drunk Girl December 28, 2012 at 1:30 am #

      Hi, Becky,
      Thank you so much for your comment! The best part is: lately, I’ve been having pangs, but there is ONE thing I know for sure and that is, I am making it to 90 days, damn it! 🙂

      Yes, looking back is really hard, and I can totes see how some people cave after a little while being sober. After the head clears, the “being and staying sober” becomes the norm (without too much work), that’s when the memories, the looking back, and the confronting your day-to-day problems and tendencies that made you want to drink in the first place start. Oy. But, it’s part of staying sober and happy — and drinkin’ is just not going to fix any of it.

      Merry Xmas and Happy New Year to you, too! Thanks for reading…xx

  3. facingfactsaboutmyself December 26, 2012 at 9:37 pm #

    I so glad to find you alive, well and sober on this side of the holidays! Well done to you! You do inspire me. Take care Paul.

    • Drunky Drunk Girl December 28, 2012 at 1:31 am #

      Thanks, Paul! I couldn’t have done it without your support. This little blogospere community is very special to me. Happy (sober) New Year to you! Hope you’re healing well, body, face, and spirit. 🙂

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